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Psychology experts share the three secrets to staying on good terms with your loved ones!
Hello, this is John! We all want our relationships with our partners and loved ones to be forever loving and comfortable, right? But sometimes you may be wondering, "What can I do to make our relationship better?" or "It just hasn't been going well lately..."
Don't worry! In this article, we will introduce the "three important secrets" for cultivating a long-lasting, wonderful relationship, which psychology experts say "if you just keep these in mind, the rest is just a bonus!" in an easy-to-understand way even for beginners. It's like finding the magic key to open the treasure chest called a happy relationship!
Tip 1: Value open-minded dialogue
The first tip is,"Open-minded dialogue"Does this sound a bit difficult?
No, that's not the case. Simply put, it means "expressing your feelings and thoughts honestly and with consideration for the other person" and "listening carefully and with your heart to what the other person has to say."
This is a way of communicating with each other's hearts, so to speak."Catchball of the Heart"It's like this. Throw the ball gently so that the other person can easily catch it. Then, catch the ball that the other person throws to you firmly. If you can do this catch ball smoothly, misunderstandings will decrease and trust will deepen.
- Even if you think, "I wonder if it's okay to say this...", try to choose your words carefully and express yourself gently.If you hold it in and let it build up, it could become a big problem later.
- When the other person is talking, don't fiddle with your smartphone, but make eye contact and listen while nodding along with comments like "yes, yes."It's important to have the attitude of "I'm listening to what you have to say."
- Sometimes, understanding unspoken feelings can lead to deeper communication.
By continuing this "ball of the heart," a comfortable atmosphere will begin to flow between the two of you.
Tip 2: Accept and respect each other as they are
The second tip is,"Accept and respect each other as we are".
Think about it. Just as each of us has a different face and personality, we also have different likes, dislikes, and values. The same goes for partners.
Even if the other person's way of thinking or actions is different from your own, instead of labeling them as "wrong!" or forcing your ideals on them by saying "Why can't you do it like this?", first respond by saying "I see, that's another way of thinking," or "I see that's how you feel."Accept the other person's personality and existence "completely"It's important to do that.
It's like colorful paints respecting each other's colors to complete a beautiful painting. By viewing each other's differences as "attractive personalities" rather than "flaws," your relationship will become richer and deeper.
- Don't forget to say "thank you."Expressing gratitude for even the smallest things is a great sign that you respect the other person.
- Even if you disagree with someone, try not to get emotional and ask, "Why do you think that?" and try to understand the other person's feelings behind it.
- Respect the things your partner likes and the time they cherishThis is also an example of consideration.
A relationship in which you cherish each other as you are gives you a sense of security, like sitting in a warm sunshine.
Tip 3: Picture the same future together and work together
The third tip is:"To envision the same future together and cooperate with each other".
This is about asking yourself questions like, "What kind of life do you want to live in the future?", "What kind of family do you want to build?", "What do you want to value in life?"Have dreams, goals, and values that you can share together
Of course, everything doesn't have to be the same. But it's reassuring to have partners who go together on the long voyage of life, with similar goals and destinations. This is what happens when you're rowing a two-seater boat."Let's head to that lovely island over there!" they say, joining forces while looking at the same compass.It's like that.
Having a common goal will make you feel like "Let's overcome small daily difficulties together!", and the joy of achieving something together will make your bond even stronger.
- Try talking together from time to time about your dreams and hopes for the future.It's fun to imagine exciting futures together!
- It's also a good idea to find common hobbies and try new things together.The experience of "doing something together" enriches your memory album.
- Another important aspect of cooperation is sharing responsibilities in daily life, such as housework and childcare. It's good to have a sense of being a "team" with each other.
A relationship in which you look toward the same future and move forward hand in hand will bring you an irreplaceable sense of security and happiness.
A word from John
What did you think? "Open dialogue," "respect for who we are," and "a shared future." These three secrets are actually not something special, and can all be put into practice with a little daily effort and consideration. Perhaps the important thing is to remember to care for the other person and to have the attitude of carefully cultivating relationships.
As experts say, if you get these basic things down, the rest of the details will be like the icing on the cake. So, make sure you keep these three foundational keys in mind!
This article is based on the following original articles and is summarized from the author's perspective:
The 3 Keys To A Long-Lasting Relationship, From Psychologists